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That's
when I understood that, seen from the spiritual
perspective, there can be no victims or
perpetrators in this dance - and therefore
no right or wrong. What we call life is
essentially an illusion - a spiritual game
designed for our spiritual growth.
(This
is not to say that the physical world is
not real in the physical sense. Neither
am I saying that we are not accountable
for our actions in this physical world.
We are. We have to be in the human world
to the fullest extent even while knowing
that beneath the apparent reality of this
world, there is a deeper and more profound
meaning to life that, right now, we are
not fully privy to. Knowing that the Love
of the Universe is flowing in every situation
gives us the strength and the power to act
with purpose and integrity, and to take
right action free from the judgment and
fear - oriented mindset that ordinarily
determines our perception of life. Not only
are we always more likely to be flowing
with life and in peace, when we allow ourselves
to feel the Love, we are also more likely
to be effective
in
this world).
I
began to teach this form of forgiveness
to the cancer patients who attended our
Georgia CancerHelp Program retreats because,
unlike traditional forgiveness, RADICAL
Forgiveness is very fast. It is virtually
instantaneous. It is also extremely easy
to do since it involves just doing some
very simple worksheets, and requires no
special skill or understanding.
Though
RADICAL Forgiveness has some distinct similarities
to the ideas expressed in A Course
in Miracles, I never became a student
of that program because for me it seemed
so intellectual and difficult to understand.
I wanted RADICAL Forgiveness to be really
simple, easy to understand and above all
very practical - something you could very
easily integrate into your everyday life.
I wanted it to be something that people
could do for themselves and share with others
in the course of ordinary conversation without
needing to be any kind of 'expert.'
It
was for this purpose that my wife, JoAnna,
and I created the Institute of Radical Forgiveness
Therapy and Coaching; to train people to
do just that. Being a RADICAL Forgiveness
Coach is not difficult because it is mainly
a matter of showing people how to use the
tools and supporting them through the process.
We have trained many people around the world
who not only find it a spiritually satisfying
career for themselves but are making an
enormous difference to peoples' lives.
I
should also point out that RADICAL Forgiveness
Therapy is therapy for the soul. This is
an important distinction since a major difference
between the two forms of forgiveness is
that RF requires absolutely no therapy as
we normally understand it. There is no need
to go digging up the past. (This mattered
a lot to the cancer patients because, having
spent a lifetime repressing emotions, they
had no appetite whatsoever for doing emotional
work). Therapy is not required because there
is nothing to fix. You are perfect just
the way you are and what is occurring for
you is exactly what you need and have created.
Remember
those recurring patterns I mentioned earlier?
Being abandoned over and over, always getting
into abusive relationships, getting fired
every two or three years and so on. Well,
as I said, those repetitive patterns are
telling you that something needs healing
from way back. Each time it happens, it
is your Higher Self giving you another opportunity
to heal that original pain and/or toxic
belief. It may be from this lifetime or
generational pain that resides in your genes.
It may even be past life pain. It doesn't
matter. You don't need to know what
it is. You don't have to go to a hypnotherapist
to find out. You don't need a therapist
to give you fancy reasons why you are so
“screwed up.” All you have to
do is open your mind to the possibility
that your healer is that person who just
the other day did something to you that
made you disproportionately upset or angry.
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