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Radical
Forgiveness |
Opposition
To Our Need To Condemn
Forgiveness
cannot be willed. We can make a decision to
forgive but that's it. It will happen
when it happens. We say, “time heals.”
This just means that it will happen when we
get just plain tired of holding onto the resentment.
That can take years, generations, and for
some, lifetimes.
How
do we know if we have truly forgiven? The
best way is to notice how we feel in the gut
when we are suddenly reminded of the act committed
by the person we were trying to forgive. If
there is absolutely no reaction and we feel
totally peaceful about it, we might assume
we have forgiven. But how can we trust that?
How can we be sure? Well, it's a good
indication that we haven't forgiven if
we get disproportionately upset when we observe
something akin to what happened to us occurring
elsewhere. The more upset we get, the more
it is our pain projected. That tells us we
haven't really forgiven and there is more
work to do.
If
we find the same kind of thing happening to
us again with someone else that's a good
sign that the basic energy block is still
there and we have created another opportunity
to heal it once again. That's what we
call a recurring pattern and it always indicates
a core issue that still needs to be healed...
When
I was working with cancer patients in the
early nineties, it was exciting to learn that
one of the root causes of cancer was a lack
of forgiveness. Being part of the problem,
it must also be part of the solution, I reasoned.
But when I looked at the research and saw
just how difficult forgiveness was and how
long it took, my heart sank.
It
was in that moment that RADICAL Forgiveness
was born. Though it is a very radical statement,
it nevertheless made perfect sense to me in
that moment. I knew exactly what he meant.
I saw in that moment that as spiritual beings
having a human experience we are co-creating
our lives with Spirit moment by moment. And
every experience we have is divinely planned
and orchestrated for our soul's growth. The
principal reason for our journey is to heal
the dream of separation and to remember who
we are. Our Higher Selves attract others into
our lives so we can play out the drama of
separation for each other.
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