Every year at this time it seems I talk about Love, Lovers, and all Relationships that make us happy or sad.

The nature of our everyday existence usually depicts how we get along with others. We are constantly in elementary school, never growing up or passing the grade. All through life we keep trying but we’re left behind again and again. I guess we never conquer relationships, we simply grow with them.

There are a few things to try that could get you a passing grade. One is understanding and excepting that you are perfect. On a higher lever this is true, even though what you do is not always perfect. It’s not a dumb idea and if you have trouble embracing this truth, it’s only because your ego-self is challenging your perfection.

Our ego likes us to identify with our actions and make us feel guilty about them. It likes you to put blame on others and yourself and it’s one of the reasons we often judge others as well. Once you can balance/neutralize your ego by accepting and loving your self in its perfect state, you will not need to judge the imperfections of others.

I always say; be of the world – not in the world. This means I understand I cannot make people happy and I can’t make people like me (nor should I). My perception is that others do not see me as I am, but from their own veil of old programming and I see them the same way. Neither one can be accurate and truly objective.

If you have high self-esteem you won’t care so much, and you will know that being is more important than belonging. We all need a strong ego to survive, but too much is the same as too much testosterone or estrogen that can have similar imbalances. Both can cause extreme pleasure to death (which is also an extreme).

Which of these are you? Are you Sympathetic, Empathetic, or Compassionate. What would you do if you came upon a drowning person and you didn’t know how to swim?

The Sympathetic person would jump in and drown with them. The Empathetic person would sit down, meditate, moan and cry while they’re drowning. The Compassionate person would help them by doing something about it, maybe throw them a rope or yell for someone that can swim.

My daughter, Jodi would like a mother that's Empathetic (or so she thinks), but she’s got a Compassionate mom that has solutions for almost anything. I think all three parts are in our personal make-up, but Compassion is therapeutic because it allows you to share your being and help others. If you know and trust yourself enough, then life becomes a sharing of experience that transcends the ego. Compassion is an act without gain, appreciation or expectation.

Everything and everybody (ALL Human Beings) are pure energy. Nothing dies; you cannot die, nor can those you love. We are constantly building something up, or tearing it down, but nothing ever stays the same. In your positive state – excited and challenged about what you’re doing (or who you’re sharing life with) – your energy moves forward and expands. But! Even in your darkest hour and your most troublesome time, energy stays in motion moving backward, preparing for a change that will transform your life. Knowing this always give us hope for the future – the possibility for a new start every day. God’s unique plan has made it impossible for us to fail at life and love.

After everything is said and done, we have the one culprit to deal with and it’s Responsibility. Until we are ready to be responsible for past deeds, thoughts and words that create our current circumstances and reality (Karma) we will stay in crappy marriages and relationships, keep unfulfilled jobs, rent instead of own your own home, etc, etc, etc……Just add to this list and see how you’re doing!

I wanted to stay away from this whole barrel of worms I just spilled out, but it’s the truth. There are so many phenomenal pieces to our personal puzzle, but our lives are like a maze that will show us the way in, lead us through (a lifetime) then dump us out on the same path. The difference is the path has changed when looking back. Along the way, we get our egos balanced, we learn being responsible is hard, but good. We learn to trust God/Goddess to lead us through the maze and follow the ever-changing path until it’s over here on Earth.

I wish for us all to be happy where we are today, knowing everything we wish for can happen at anytime. Valentine’s Day is for partners in love, but it’s also a celebration of friendship. Invite a friend out to dinner or gather friends to your house for dinner, but don’t think for a moment that you’re alone or left out of the dating game or the lover’s club. I think we should have another holiday called “Friendship Day,” don’t you!?!?

Blessings to you all and please read the ad below and show your support for CAMA. Being responsible today can mean saving this valuable association.

Bye honeys,