Messages from the 'Mainstream Metaphysical Mom'

Can the important people in my life keep up with my personal evolution?

There are relationships that you have pre-new path that you may or may not want to maintain post-new path. Theoretically the 'new spirituality' doesn't always have boundaries when people start redefining themselves and my humble opinion is there should be. Change is tough but granting others: Some type of functional communication is something they deserve; Respect and integrity; Recognition that you're not the only blooming flower in the garden can make your journey much smoother. With change comes strained relationships with significant others, children, friends, business partners and the like. They can be left wondering, “What did I do? Who is this (new) person? Am I bad because she is new? Was she bad before? Am I bad? What the hell is going on here?”

I started my adventures by getting psychic readings, moved on to taking classes, then reading and listening to a lot of books, creating more routine practices and ceremonies - meditating, celebrating equinoxes and solstices, integrating the cycles of the earth into my daily practices, having an awareness of the cycles of the moon, working with tarot, working with healing light, journaling my dreams every morning, etc. As I became clearer, I told my husband where I was netting out spiritually. I didn't expect him to buy into where I was, but I was taking our children on this journey as well. My husband didn't really have any strong religious beliefs one way or another, so he went along with it.

A couple of years after I started my journey, my husband revealed that he was concerned that my spiritual path would eventually separate us. I asked him why he didn't share this with me sooner, this is unconditional love that I have experienced throughout our entire marriage, and his response was “I didn't want to get in the way of your happiness.” Some people are simply naturals at being wonderfully balanced, loving and non-judgmental. I'm lucky enough to be married to one of them.

Even today, my life partner has been peddling hard to understand what 'is' and is defining it independent of me as I independent of him. We have given each other the freedom and the time to get where we're going. But come back together to have wonderful discussions about 'the universe.' What's even more interesting is the destination is constantly changing as we learn and experience more. Our common mantra now is (of which we first found separately) - “It's all about life experiences.”

Then there are my children. My 3 children were at home and two of my nieces were also visiting for the week. They were being pretty loud and I was getting irritated as a result. My oldest, nearly 11 years old at the time, realized that I was about to blow and said “Mommy, let me take the baby” (our youngest was about 3  months old at the time). I, jumping into my independent I don't need any help from anyone Super Mom mode said, “No, I can do it - I don't need any help.” My pre-teen looked at me and said “Mom, you should accept my help and not try to make me feel guilty by not allowing me to help you”. - Whoa! Did she totally hit that emotion on the head! I beamed with pride, knowing that she was growing alongside me and as a result of my influence. What a wonderful gift!

There are relationships that you have post-new path that may no longer be beneficial to either party. While it's beneficial to surround yourself with diversity, new opinions and information to continue to expand, granting others: Some type of functional communication is something they deserve; Respect and integrity; and recognition that you're not the only blooming flower in the garden can clear out some major karma. With change comes strained relationships with significant others, children, friends, business partners and the like. Give them the gift of knowing, “I do this for me. You are important. I am recreating myself everyday... Here is where I am today. You and I are perfect in our imperfections and that could never be bad. You and I grow in so many ways, let me count or recite them. That is what's going on here.”

Excerpts are from the award-winning book “Adventures of a Mainstream Metaphysical Mom” by M.A. Payton.

Michelle Payton authored the award-winning Adventures of a Mainstream Metaphysical Mom, 'Soul'utions and Universal Birth Mix Patterns. She is a sought after radio guest reaching people world-wide, does empowering workshops and one-on-one sessions, and owns and operates The Left Side - New Age wholesale/manufacturing/distributor. For more information, call 614-785-9821 or e-mail theleftside@ aol.com.