DEAR Louise

Louise L. Hay is a metaphysical teacher and the best-selling author of numerous books, including You Can Heal Your Life, Empowering Women, and I Can Do It®. For the past 25 years, she has assisted millions of people in discovering and using the full potential of their own creative powers for personal growth and self-healing. Louise’s works have been translated into 29 different languages in 35 countries throughout the world.

Dear Louise,
First, I’d like to thank you for your books and all that you’ve done to make a difference in the world. I’m so grateful to you! I’m a student in Germany and moved away from home to get a college education. I’m blessed to have lovely friends, a good job, and to be able to go to school, too, but I don’t have a boyfriend and this worries me. Sometimes I put myself down and think I’m not good enough. I know this isn’t true and that God really loves me, but I still let this bother me. What can I do?
- G.P., Germany

Dear G.P.,
My sense is that even though you’ve done a tremendous amount of work on yourself, there’s still some fear that is standing between you and the life you desire, and that you’re holding back from allowing a relationship to be in your life in the way that you wish.

You may have to reach back into your childhood relationship with your father or mother to resolve deep-seated fears surrounding a relationship. Ask yourself: What do I have to give up to be in a relationship? How do I lose me when I’m in a relationship? What messages did I receive as a child that created a belief in me that relationships are painful or not forthcoming?
I suggest that you work on loving yourself nonstop. Treat yourself to romance and love. Demonstrate to yourself how special you are. Pamper yourself. Buy yourself flowers. Surround yourself with colors, textures, and scents that please you. Life always mirrors back to us the feelings we have inside. As you develop an inner sense of love and romance, the right person will be attracted to you like a magnet.
A great affirmation for you is: I AM DISCOVERING HOW WONDERFUL I AM. I CHOOSE TO LOVE AND ENJOY MYSELF.

Dear Louise,
My mother-in-law's house has been for sale since June (almost nine months), but there have been no offers. She and my husband own it together. I’ve cleaned and staged it and done my affirmations. I even buried a small statue of St. Joseph in the yard, but still nothing. She has moved to a senior complex, as she’s elderly and could really use the money. We could, too, for that matter. Any suggestions you could give would be appreciated!
- D.J., St. Louis, MO

Dear D.J.,
You certainly have started out well by clearing the energy in the house. Now it’s time to get out of your own way! Unfortunately, the old adage is true: What we resist, persists. You can actually allow the universe to bring to you that which you desire by focusing on something else for a while. In other words, for the next week, do something else other than worry about the house. Spontaneously call friends and go to dinner and a movie; do your favorite exercise or walk every day—basically, be creative and do what you love.

And remember, this is fun. Make a game out of everything you do this week and make sure you don’t talk to anyone, even your spouse, about the house or your mother-in-law. Let me know what happens after the week is over!

Dear Louise,
I’ve suffered with neck, shoulder, and back pain on my left side for many years. What causes this? Thank you!
- P.R., San Francisco

Dear P.R.,
Masculine energy (right side of the body) has to do with the rational, more analytical part of each of us. Feminine energy (left side) is our artistic and reflective nature. When these aspects of ourselves are not in balance, our bodies can get out of balance as well.

The problems you’re experiencing with the left side of your body are most likely the result of challenges with your mother or a strong female figure. Was your mother overly strict when you were a child? Was she rejecting of you, and so now you are of her, and therefore the feminine side of yourself as well? Look closely at your physical symptoms. Then sit quietly in meditation and ask your Higher Wisdom Self, which is always present, to guide you to understanding. Ask how those symptoms are connected to old thoughts and beliefs (especially when this first started), then open yourself up to information on what needs to be released and forgiven for healing to take place.

An affirmation for you to use is: I RELEASE ALL THAT ONCE CONTRIBUTED TO CHALLENGES WITH MY LEFT SIDE. AS I LOVINGLY EMBRACE ALL ASPECTS OF ME, I EXIST PEACEFULLY IN RADIANT WHOLENESS AND PERFECT HEALTH.

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