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Understanding article continued from last page, click here! By
being as objective as possible,
and communicating about the facts
rather than the personalities
involved in the discussion, you
open the door to actually being
understood while giving another
the opportunity to state their
case.
Make
Allowances for Your
Own
Self-Image
Self-image
forms our view of the world and
is responsible for the way we
filter our perceptions.
So,
if the self-image of the person
we are speaking with is filtering
everything we say to them, we
can be sure that our own self-image
will also be interfering with
what they are trying to say to
us. Because of this filter, we
need to be aware of our self-image
and recognize how it affects our
perception of everything, including
the way we hear others.
Learn
to Listen
If
we accept that true communication
is plagued by difficulties in
the way we express ourselves,
as well as how we perceive others,
it is easy to see how important
it is to learn to listen properly
- how to listen with every fiber
of our being. This is different
to the type of listening we are
probably used to.
Normally,
there are all sorts of things
going on in our minds when others
speak to us. Listening with all
our mind and awareness means that
we become open to what others
are saying, without interrupting
them, without justifying our own
position in our minds, and without
mentally formulating a response
while the other person is talking.
Remember
the Big Picture
Effective
communication is always a means
to an end, be it to foster better
work relationships or maintaining
a healthy marriage. Therefore,
when you are challenged to communicate
your thoughts and feelings to
another, always remember the bigger
picture and keep it at the front
of your mind.
By
focusing on the bigger picture,
you will be more objective and
avoid getting caught up in pettiness.
And by developing the ability
to be objective, it will be easier
to view everything that happens,
both bad and good, as simply opportunities
to grow together, whatever the
situation may be.
Theun
Mares is a teacher and author
of six books on the Toltec
Path of Freedom. His most recent
release is This Darned Elusive
Happiness. For catalog and
information, email: info@toltec-foundation.org
or call 1.800.467.5036.
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