Listen to YOUR Spirit

By Christel Nani

When you make a decision, do you feel torn between what you are supposed to do and what you would like to do? Do you have dreams that excite you, but find yourself defeated by an inner voice telling you they’re unrealistic?

When we engage in a tug of war between what’s truly best for us and the “shoulds” that have been imposed on us, it can literally make us sick. These ingrained ideas or “tribal beliefs” are taught to us by the various tribes we are part of: our family, religion, social circle, workplace, country, and so on. If left unchecked, these conflicts that leave you feeling guilty will lower your vibration and weaken your immune system. Guilt not only causes an energetic disturbance in your body, but leads to a feeling of powerlessness, which depletes the body’s energy.

As an emergency room and trauma nurse in New York City’s busiest hospitals for sixteen years, I saw firsthand the profound damage from illnesses caused by energy draining conflicts. Since each illness has a specific low vibration, it’s important to keep your vibration as high as possible. So when your programming says, "I should do this" but your spirit says "No,” it’s time to get out of your tug of war and make a sacred choice to listen to your spirit.

Here are some simple steps to get out of conflict and raise your vibration:
Listen for telltale words in your vocabulary. If you hear yourself saying such phrases as "I should...I have to...I'm supposed to...I must.... I have no choice..." it is a sure sign that you're doing something not because you want to, but because you feel it's expected of you. This is the root of guilt – the conflict between what you want to do and what you believe others want you to do.

Identify your limiting tribal beliefs. Tribal beliefs are always at the root of guilt. To find the root tribal belief, ask yourself why you feel guilty. For example, a client I'll call Sara didn't want to visit an old friend for the holidays because she felt the two of them had grown apart, and the so-called friend was always negative and an energy drain to be around. However, Sara felt she should visit her because she'd known her for twenty years, and the woman had stood by Sara at a time when Sara had been gravely ill. Sara's tribal belief was this: A long-time friend should be your friend for life, no matter what.

Watch for head chatter. When people are driven by guilt, they begin to negotiate with themselves. Sara's chatter went something like this: "I'll go visit her, but I'll only stay for fifteen minutes." "I'll get someone else to drive me so I'll have an easy excuse to leave." "I have to go to the store in that direction anyway, so I'll just stop in and say a quick hello." When you start negotiating, procrastinating, or skirting around the issue, guilt is getting the upper hand and will start to wear you down.

Get to the heart of your true wishes. Next, here's the big question to ask yourself: If there were no logistical considerations – if you're not going to hurt anyone's feelings, if no one will believe you're selfish, if your actions will not create any distress or anger to anyone – what would you truly like to do? When I asked Sara this question, she answered immediately: "I don't want to see her." Notice how clear our decisions become when we stop worrying about our reputations!

Find a way to be true to your wishes. Eventually, you will want to rewrite your limiting tribal beliefs and start living by new ones. Sara's new tribal belief might be: It's reasonable to believe that friends sometimes grow apart and no longer have common interests. For now, though, a simpler and less involved solution is to make a commitment to solve this problem incrementally. How can you stay true to yourself and rid yourself of the guilt simultaneously? Sara's solution was to call the friend for two minutes and say that although she couldn't come by, she genuinely wanted to wish her happy holidays and a healthy new year.

What happens when you learn how to rid yourself of guilt? You will immediately feel less irritation, anger, and resentment. Resentment occurs when we slavishly listen to our tribal beliefs rather than listening to our heart's true wishes.

When you live authentically and in alignment with your spirit, your vibration is naturally high. You will feel more energetic, positive, and self-confident. When you live at your highest vibration, it ripples out into the world, healing others and creating the tipping point toward positivity.

Born with the ability to “read” people’s childhoods and diagnose their traumas, Christel is a well-known clairvoyant whom Deepak Chopra calls “inspiring and compelling.” She has an extensive medical background in ER/Trauma.